Loving Your Child Through Their Addiction
Break through Worry. Grieve while Healing. Walk into Greater Peace and Love.
Being a parent of a child struggling with substance use is one of the hardest things you might ever experience. The grief, worry, not knowing what do or how they are, regrets, anger, so many big emotions can be suffocating. So please don't muddle through it alone or without enough support. No one can do this alone, and you are not alone.
There's a name for grieving a child who is alive but not available physically or mentally. It's called Ambiguous Grief, and it includes guilt, worry, anger, profound sadness, maybe some shame, stigma, isolation, and more. I don't have to tell you it's painful. More importantly, though, is to know how to restore your peace, to believe there is hope and how to cultivate it, to know there are resources for you, and that there are some very good tools and coping strategies you can learn so that you can care for your grief, worry, guilt, anger, all of it, and empower your love.
You're invited to be part of a larger family, a community of other parents who get it, and hold each other in love and support, in healing and creating change.
Love wins here!
A FREEBIE GUIDE FOR PARENTS OF CHILDREN WHO STRUGGLE WITH ADDICTION
Worry Less, Help Your Child More
Grab this FREE guide "How To Find Peace When You Worry" and get some of my most used and most effective tips in order to build a strong foundation for inner peace so that you can:
- Shift out of fear so you can stop imagining the worst, get back to sleep, resume your activities, and love your child with a restored sense of peace.
- Relieve your worry so you can move forward with more clarity in order to identify the choices that feel right for you as you help your child.
- Become more present in your life and relationships so that you can be ok when things are not ok, and create conditions that inspire change.
Things can change with the right tools. Let's create some healing and change today!
Love Wins Here!
Sign up to receive inspiration and updates that can support your own healing, skill-building, and to empower your precious love. Together, we can find our light and shine it into the dark times of addiction. Something we all really need. Let's create some brighter days and possibilities for ourselves and our families!
Because your child struggles with substance use, you have a choice to use it for purpose. Make no mistake about it, you have power. You need to know how to use it. You and the way you think, the way you live your life, how you approach your child and the hard stuff, these things are the change makers.
It only takes one person to create change.
You Are That One
Let's walk this journey together. We can find peace and healing within and beyond addiction.
"All human life has its seasons and cycles, and no one's personal chaos can be permanent. Winter, after all, gives way to spring and summer, though sometimes when branches stay dark and the earth cracks with ice, one thinks they will never come, that spring, and that summer, but they do, and always." ~ Truman Capote
Love Shows Up Here
A FREEBIE guide to reconnect you with your greatest purpose - to be love. Here's a path.
Letter From a Child
A FREEBIE gift and inspiring letter of truth and guidance from child to parent.
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What people are saying...
I have been an Alanoner for a long time but have to say Joanne's class has added so much to my life, I can barely explain it. It brought all those years of meetings, counseling, etc. together. Thanks Joanne again. ~ E
It’s like coming out of the darkness and into the light. It’s changing all my relationships. ~ L
It’s really helping me to connect with my son, see how beautiful he is, and relieve my worrying. I'm not as angry anymore, I'm accepting him more, and feel less tension between us. Thank you Joanne! ~ R
Thank you Joanne. You have helped me so much to question my thoughts and beliefs. I have been living in such a hopeless dark place and doing this work with you has helped me re-think everything. ~ M
You helped me learn how to communicate with my son and I’m forever grateful. He has been in recovery and is living on his own & working. I’m still working on my own self and our relationship is better than ever. The bonus is he calls me almost every day, love wins!!!!
~ P
It was your group and your words that taught me how to love my child through her addiction. Your words helped me help her realize her strength and worth. I thank you every day for her life and mine. I hope for peace for your family.
~ B
Inspiring Reads from Hearts at Work
A Healing Path
Come into this place
Come in. Come into this place which we make holy by our presence.
Come in with all your vulnerabilities and strengths, fears, and anxieties, loves, and hopes. For here you need not hide, nor pretend, nor be anything other than who you are and are called to be.
Come into this place where we can touch and be touched, heal and be healed, forgive, and be forgiven.
Come into this place, where the ordinary is sanctified, the human is celebrated, the compassionate is expected.
Come into this place. Together we make it a holy place.
~ Rebecca Edmiston-Lange
Healing Hearts
Your child is alive but you fear their death and more loss, they're alive but very much different and changed, or unavailable. This is Ambiguous Grief and it includes worry, guilt, anger, so many emotions when a child struggles with substance use. We don't do this alone. The burden is heavy, we lighten it in community, together. Healing Hearts is a community of fellow moms (dads welcome too) seeking a compassionate place to be understood, find peace within the struggle, and rise higher into the love they so want to feel and share. In sessions available for you in every month, we transform guilt, worry, and anger, all the hard emotions, into acceptance, resilience, inspired and loving action, learning tools and methods to practice essential skills of loving a child through their addiction. You can acquire valuable insights and supports in order to tap into your inner wisdom, and learn how to discern what's best for you and your beloved child. This is a powerful ongoing monthly membership that provides you with community and guidance to strengthen your perseverance, build resilience, and put your hope into skillful action. When you give it to you, it transfers. You give it to your child too!
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Finding Peace
When we love a child through an addiction, there is worry. Hard not to worry. Along with the free gift, How To Find Peace When You Worry, deepen your personal experience of being able to find it and live with more peace, share it with your child. This is a self-guided mini course with supports throughout to help you create a personal practice for your own personal peace path.
Worry to Warrior
We have fears and worries, lots of emotions, lots of judgments on what we want to be different. What happens when it's not changing? We get stuck in fear, our wants, our should's of how we think things should happen, desperate to fill the needs, especially when the risks are real. We can get stuck in the energy of fear. That energy blocks our capacity to love, and use skills that are necessary to love a child through their addiction. And with deeper understanding and to actually embrace and explore fear, it can show us the way back to our heart, and to love with connection and clearer communication. Get this self-guided deep dive into your fears, and let them guide you to the truth your dear heart seeks, and its guidance.
Saying No, with Love
The demands and chance of argument are real, especially when you say no and someone is unable to accept it. Along with mental health and addiction concerns, it's easy to find yourself saying yes just to avoid more pressure and difficulty, but it's also easy to blame yourself and possibly your child because of it. And so the cycle of confusion and conflict continues. Urgh! In this course, you will identify what you truly value, your priorities, why you say yes when you want to say no, how to find your truest answer, and how to be more confident communicating it without guilt, with clarity and kindness, showing up in a calm and peaceful way that works for you. If it works for you, it works for your child too.
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